Since good oral sex often takes a while, don’t give it everything you’ve got right away.
“I think people put a lot of energy in up front, when you’re kind of trying to warm up everything,” says Katz, “and then by the time they’re moving toward the finale, they’re exhausted or their neck is cramped.”
For the satisfaction of both you and your partner consider starting off in a comfortable position — maybe she has pillows under back and butt, maybe you’re off the side of the bed, sitting in chair — and then you can move to her preferred position near the end.
Remember the Rest of the Body
It may be called oral sex but most of the time, it’s better when it involves other parts of the body. “We tend to focus so much on one area, everybody should open their viewpoint,” says Katz. Some possible additions she suggests include light hair pulling, nipple massage, and gentle scratching along your partner’s torso.
Move Past the ABCs
The old trick of writing the ABCs with your tongue to ferret out what your partner likes is a nice, but problematic, idea. “If you’re going through the alphabet and you’re trying to figure out what someone likes, by the time you hit ‘B’ and they’re like, I like ‘A,’ you might not remember [how you did it],” says Katz.
Instead, she recommends spelling out words that repeat certain letters and being sure to remember if you’re using capitalization and block or script letters. Another technique is envisioning her vulva as the face of a clock and keeping track of what times are her favorites.
Refine Your Technique
There are a lot of different ways to perform oral sex — like licking, sucking, nibbling, kissing, and even biting — and people don’t always realize how each of these feels. For example, Katz says people should know that a flat tongue feels very different than a pointed one: flat covers more area and pointed is more intense (and, therefore, probably better later on).
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The more you understand how the different techniques feel to your partner, the better off you’ll be at knowing when to do what.