Frisky Friday: Kinklab Neon Wand

Today, let’s talk about the world of electrosex.

At its most basic description, electro sex is the inclusion of electricity—specifically electric impulses—during sexual activity. Obviously, that isn’t the sexiest of descriptions, but at its base, that’s exactly what electro sex is:

You’re using electricity, through safe devices, to elicit sexual arousal and sexual enjoyment.

So, what exactly does electro sex feel like? Does electro sex hurt? The answer is no—and yes. Electro sex toys designed for sexual purposes are intentionally dialed down in their intensity to ensure a safe, sexual, and fun experience—even for people who are brand new to e-stimulation.

To this end, electro sex toys are designed to provide a range of sensations—from the softest tickle all the way up to a current that will make you jump.

The intensity level you choose to play with is entirely up to you. You can use the softest levels of electro sex toys for a gentle experience, or, as you gain experience, you can add more power for sensations that can border on painful.

We get it, though: the idea of adding electrosex in the bedroom can seem like trying to relearn sex all over again.

Pulse widths? Impulse frequencies? Electrodes? What the heck is all of THAT?

It can feel like trying to take an advanced-level course in electronics.

That’s why we’re really fond of the Kinklab Neon Wand. Unlike estim powerbox toys (which are amazing in their own right – but definitely have a learning curve!), the Kinklab Neon Wand was designed to be a beginner-friendly way to try out electrosex.

Kinklab Neon Wand - Kinkly Shop

Instead of attaching to the skin with hundreds of customization options, the Neon Wand is held in the hand and has a simple twist-dial at the base that controls the intensity. It’s as simple as holding a wizard’s wand.

Simply read the manual, pick a glass tip, slide it in the toy, plug it in, adjust the intensity, and literally poke your partner with the tip of the wand. The electricity then “jumps” the gap between the tip and your partner’s skin for a little “zap!” that feels like fingernails erotically traced along sensitive flesh. (Neon Wands are NOT designed for insertion of any kind, but they are designed for surface-level play.)

Kinklab Neon Wand - Kinkly Shop

Down the line, if you choose to take your electrosex journey even further, the Neon Wand partners with fun, easy-to-use accessories like a body contact probe, electrosex whip, and electrosex paddle!

It has made e-stimulation much more approachable to people who’ve been fantasizing about giving it a try! Is that you?

How to Use the Neon Wand

Okay, okay. You might be thinking that a Neon Wand is simply too complicated for you, someone who loves sex toys but knows nothing about estim, to control. Let us surprise you a bit; the Neon Wand is surprisingly simple to use!

(Once you do it once or twice, you’ll think nothing of it on each subsequent use!)


  • Insert the glass electrode into the Neon Wand.
  • Check the dial on the bottom of the Neon Wand to ensure the Neon Wand is off.
  • Plug the Neon Wand into the wall.
  • Gently twist the power dial on the base of the Neon Wand. You’ll hear the “click” as it switches on – and that noise will shortly follow with a slight “buzz” in the air. That’s electricity that you’re hearing!
  • Lower the power dial on the base of the Neon Wand until you’re at the lowest possible intensity.
  • Touch the Neon Wand Sex Toy to a less-sensitive part of your partner’s body (or your body, if playing solo!). The thigh or forearm can be a good trial spot.
  • Once your partner has approved the intensity level, gently drag the Neon Wand along your partner’s skin to produce the electrosex sensations.
  • When you’re done, turn the dial all the way to the off position – then unplug the Kinklab Neon Wand.

We want zero confusion here – and want you to know exactly what you’re in for. We promise, it’s easier to use than you’d think was possible.

Close-up of the turn-dial at the base of the Kinklab Neon Wand. This allows for very precise, very adjustable power level choices that can be changed in seconds. | Kinkly Shop

Accessories for You and your Boo

Whether you want to pick them up now or come back for them later, we figure we should let you know about the future pleasure potential of your Neon Wand.


Article Source : – Sex ed for adults! Kinkly provide reviews, education and perspectives to help you have sex that’s healthy, consensual and fun.

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